I can't stand all those "reality" shows on Discovery delivering false pretenses of attentive husbands who coach their wives through childbirth (I bought a book on the Bradley Method for my husband, which sat by the bedside and went unread), take three years of paternity leave and ALWAYS pitch in whenever mommy is showing obvious signs of distress. Those guys are like Stepford husbands: serving a full day at work, then coming home to take care of the household, (cooking dinner, giving the kids baths, and getting them in bed), despite the fact that they, too, are not sleeping nights. They feed the baby and take turns getting up to change the baby. They give the mom body massages and still have energy to rekindle the romance at night. I don't know WHO these men are, but I have yet to meet one of their wives.This MYTH of the super-mothering father MUST STOP. Someone even wrote a book on: How To Pamper Your Pregnant Wife. ..... Yeah, right! After Lttl1 was born, my husband still groans about having "pizza...again" when I'm too exhausted to cook dinner. He had to be forcefully persuaded into changing diapers at night; since he can't help with night feedings because I nurse. As for making dinner for me? Get real. At this point, he has been working 12 hour days with his dad, plus completing interviews for police departments on the weekends. He's not about ready to come home and start a-cookin'. Hand holding during delivery? Cutting the cord? Um...no. He stayed at the far side of the room and admired the baby as he was getting cleaned up. *Thank goodness for my mothers comforting nature through it all, otherwise, I believe I would have ended up quite traumatized.*
And you know what? I beginning to be fine with it all. I work hard and so does my husband. He doesn't get a break at work, so why should I?
Just once I'd like to see a mother with her newborn in a sling whipping up a gormet dinner for five and asking her husband "could you hold the baby?" and him saying, "Um, no," before retiring to the bathroom with new gun magazine. Now that would really be a "reality" show!!
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LOL! Agreed! Ryan wasnt all that soothing through the delivery process either, thank goodness my mom was there. haha, good perspective though, I many times have to remind myself how busy HE is too and not to get upset when he is less then helpful!
you are funny! It's good to love your husband just like he is :) Mine doesn't help at home much either, but he was pretty good in the delivery room!
Thanks for your comments. I'm trying to blog more to relieve some stresses and take a quick break from mommihood. It's really nice to know that I'm not the only one out there feeling the same way.
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